Is Physical Intimacy a base for stronger Relationship?

 Hello readers .. hope all of you are doing great. Few days back I was watching a series, where the girl's grand mom suggests her to get intimate with her would be hubby to find out how compatible they are in bed? According to her, if they are great in bed, that will develop a stronger bond between them.. and they will go a long way.. I have heard this philosophy from my partner as well in earlier days of marriage that physical intimacy leads to more emotional security and attachment (though I thought it was other way round)...Coz for me first one needs to be more understanding and caring in a relationship then only a girl or a lady feels comfortable being physically intimate with her partner.. 

Coz my experience in life is like that ... I have earned few best friends ,.. whom i can call anytime and they are there without being physical with them... the emotional bond is sooo strong that physical thing seems so irrelevant in front of that... they understand me well and remember small details about me and their love or care is so evident ..

So, I was wondering ,, whats more important in a relationship ? share your views on this... 

Lesson learnt Hard Way..

 I think communication skills must be the mandatory part of any curriculum.. sometimes we need to reveal or stop when a conversation goes out of bounds nd thats very important for every person to know otherwise it can change your future forever.. 

I have learnt it hard way by revealing it to an unknown stranger whom I considered my friend for sometime..When I was alone and was going thru a bad phase.. I revealed it to this person.. and life changed completely after that (The biggest and stupid mistake of my life ).. 

Anyways, .. Lost my dear person after that but a very important lesson learnt for life.. Sometimes, I feel it actually happened for good that if it gave that person happiness then at least my stupidity actually helped someone get some happiness in their life .. So, in  a way It is good also ...

One of my favs lines: Muskuraao kyunki tumhe zarurat hai... Kuch kho gaya to b khush raho shayad kisi aur ko uski tum se zaada zarurat thi... Muskuraao kyunki zindagi Khoobsuurat hai... 

Five signs you are wasting your time and how to fix it.

1. Worry: You unnecessary worry about what and how people will think about you and that stops you from trying new things. 

Fix: Take advice from others but use your own judgement to do what you want by analyzing your capabilities. 

2. Complain: When things don't go as per your expectations, you keep on complaining about that particular situation and waste time and energy.  

Fix it by keeping realistic expectations out of people and time , it would save you from further disappointments and you will learn the art of acceptance gradually. 

3. Lack of Action: Sometimes people are so scared of failures that they don't even try to take action towards their goals. 

Fix it by realizing that failure is a part of life. Failure is not the end but the beginning of new opportunities. 

4. You repeat mistakes: You keep on indulging in the same old patterns and keep repeating the same mistakes instead of feeling guilty as you feel that its too hard for you to change.. 

Fix it by learning the lesson from the mistakes and realizing that change is necessary for you to grow. 

5. You seek external validation: False ego is the reason behind it ... you always try to please others and seek their validation to fulfill your ego. 

Fix it by increasing the fact that you can not please everyone in this world and if you constantly try to do so , you will end up disappointing yourself. 

Hope , next time you will use your time and resources wisely and will keep these points in mind. 

H.A.L.T

Parenting is a full time job especially when you have single child. One of the biggest challenges of upbringing a single child is they need attention all the times, as they don't have any sibling around with whom they can play or share things. So, it becomes important for a mother or the guardian to be more cautious while dealing with them. But, it is observed, that when both the parents are working, sometimes they run out of patience and scream at the kid in anger which could be more damaging for the mental health of the child.

So, next time when your kid gets cranky and acts, out make sure you H.A.L.T and ask yourself these questions before you react. 

H: HUNGRY: Ask them if they are feeling hungry, Sometimes, kids are not able to express them properly and behave in a weird manner. So, please make sure if they bare not doing it out of hunger. 

A: Anxious: Like us, Kids also have their own worries, issues, so talk to them and find out if something is bothering the. Be supportive and try to sought out their concern. 

L: Lonely: Single Child feels lonely most of the times, so spend time with them , be their friend and play and read with them. So, that they have a company at home. 

T: Tired: They can be tired mentally or physically, so ask them if something they need to talk about. Sometimes mental exertion can lead to bigger issues. 

Hope next time, you will HALT and respond in a better manner to your little one . 

10 ways to deal with Anger

In a today's busy world, we are running after materialistic possessions thinking that they will give us peace and happiness. People nowadays are so engrossed in technology that they have cut themselves from the real world and have forgotten to enjoy little things like spending time with their family and friends. Over a period of time, when they are left alone, it leads to anger and frustration and they sometimes commit big mistakes or even crime in rage of anger. 

So, here are few points that you can practice to manage your anger in a better way: 

 1 Pause: Whenever you get angry, take a pause and think , Is it worth disturbing your peace of mind? I am sure the answer would be "No" most of the times. So, think before you speak out of anger.. It will save you from future regrets. 

2. Let it Go. Have you heard the famous song "Let it Go" from Kids' movie Frozen? If no, then please listen to it and make it Mantra of your life .. yes Let go of the grudges and resentment. Holding on to past, will only hurt you more. 

3.Root Cause of Anger: Sometimes, we realize that we were not actually angry on a single thing, but it's the build up anger inside us and trigger may be a small incident that caused the outburst. So, identify the root cause and try to work on it. 

4. Be Calm and Composed while you express yourself to others, let them know in a respectable manner if some habit of theirs disturbs you. 

5. Meditation: It could be anything, A Mantra or a some music , start your day with something you like and then plan the next events accordingly. A good start will lead to a peaceful day.. 

6. Alternatives: Figure out some healthy and constructive way to release your anger, like go for a walk or workout in gym when you are very angry and don't want to hurt others with your words. After some time you can express yourself in a better manner.

7.Drink Water: Drinking water or reverse counting also help to cool down your head and give room to your thoughts. 

8. Positive self talk: Think about some good moments you spent with your family or friends and do some positive self talk to re-frame your negative thoughts.

9 Tolerate: In some situations, we should train our mind to be tolerant and give some space to our thoughts. That will help you think clearly. 

10 Forgive  Last is Forgive quickly. It's not for others but for your own mental well being. 

Hope these points will help you in managing your anger next time. 

Please feel free to post your point of view or suggestions. 

Does Killing animals affect my Karma - Part 2

 

Hello everyone, hope you are doing good..   so, here I am with the answers to your doubts. Well I asked my group admin that why should we not have non veg diet or does it adds to our bad karma?

The answers are:

ISKCON or Bhgwan Krishna is not saying that you should not have non veg but God has made so many plants, vegetables or fruits for us then why we eat other animals? They also have right to live, they also feel the pain..

For God we all are his children, and if one child eats the other then will a father be able to forgive him? Think about it.

In some rare cases like if you are living in a very cold place; where it’s tough to grow vegetables or in war areas, where there are limited resources available, then for your survival, you can have non vegetarian diet.

So, it’s completely your choice,

I hope I am able to clear your doubts.

Please feel free to post your queries or comments..

 

 

 

 

How Killing Animals affect My Karma?

 

So, past few years have been a roller coaster ride and if I take out the best parts or blessings out of them then, they would be

• ·         My daughter,
• ·         Reunion with my Bestie
• ·         Start of my spiritual journey

I am so thankful to god that he blessed me with so many good friends and a supportive family who have always been there for me.

I learnt that in tough times you have two choices either get trapped in it and give in to bad habits or cheap pleasures. But if u really wants a permanent solution then, spirituality is the answer.

Spirituality makes you understand the reasons behind many things or events taking place around you. And the best part is when you have people with whom you can discuss this. They add to your knowledge. For instance as a daily routine I attended Bhakti Varsha Class from ISKCON, and there was a topic on why we should not kill animals for meat or eating purposes, or why we turn into vegetarian ? But when my friend asked it what’s the logic behind it and how it will affect my karma if am not killing the animal but just eating it. It gave me a food for thought that yes if somebody else is killing the animal and am just eating it then he would be responsible or being the customer of such people am I promoting their business and thus indirectly am I responsible for killing of animals?

Well to answer this I need to study more or ask my mentor to give the appropriate answer. Till then all my readers are welcome to share their views on this